There are a lot of reactions when you tell people you’re thinking about having children. It’s usually a mix of happiness and advice, followed by the question of if you’re “trying” yet. In a lesbian relationship, the answer “yes” leads to an entirely different place—one that’s much more specific. This chain of questions goes something like this: “Did you buy sperm yet? When is your next cycle? When is your insemination appointment?” To simply say you’re “trying” like straight couples can doesn’t seem like enough.