When Katie and I made our decision to start trying to get pregnant, having her go first was the clear choice. She is a couple years older and what doctors consider to be a “higher risk”, or over 35. Translation to any woman who finds herself in this category: “hurry the hell up and have kids before all of your eggs dry up and you’re alone forever”. Of course this is a loose translation and the truth is much less dire. Women have children much later, the oldest natural birth being reported at the age of 59. But even presented with the fact that women in their late 30’s can have healthy babies, it comes with risk. It didn’t make sense to wait any more.